Bittersweet surprise.

Once in a blue moon, people will surprise you, and once in a while, people may even take your breath away.

-Meredith Grey

We encounter hundreds of different people throughout our lives. We listen to hundreds of different stories, see hundreds of different faces, witness hundreds of different morals and hear hundreds of different perspectives. We get to exchange moments with hundreds of different people in our lifetime. Some fly by us like it’s nothing, and some take our breath away. Some we remember, some we forget. But, in all these encounters we learn to cope with the ones that left and enjoy our time with the ones that are still standing next to us.

People often tell me that I leave a huge impact on their lives, mostly positive. This is one of the best feelings in the world. Just today, two completely different individuals expressed their gratitude towards my presence in their lives. They explained to me the difference I make for just being there, through the good and the bad. They proved to me that one individual person can make a difference, and that makes me want to try even harder. Being told that you are irreplaceable, genuine and heart-warming is above and beyond the best thing anyone can ever experience.

Recently, I’ve gotten back relationships and lost some. All of these have affected me in their own way. They are all important in their own way and play a major role in my life. If I have learned anything in these last few months, it’s that the people who are meant to be in your life will find a way back. However, those who do not want to be a part of it, no matter how hard you try to make them stay, will leave without an explanation. People come and people go. That’s life. The sooner we learn that, the better.

It is not to say that we should not mourn the leaving of someone from our lives, especially if it is without so much as a reason why. We are human beings with feelings and should take them seriously. Coming from someone who often tries to hide her emotions, I can tell you that it will eat you alive. Once they start to bottle up, they will eventually pop out like champagne on New Years. I don’t care if you are the best pretender out there. You are a living being that feels things, just like the rest of the world. Your feelings deserve respect and should be treated as such. If you don’t learn that, then prepare yourself for a disaster. You will become a ticking bomb and eventually explode. Spare yourself the misery and defuse on time.

When someone decides to keep things from you, whether it being in a friendship or romantic relationship, it sends a signal of caution. If that person does not trust and respect you enough to tell you the truth, then they do not deserve your presence in their life. You are a damn special person! Hell, we all are. We all deserve honesty and open relationships. People think it’s okay to hide things by covering it up with the cheap expression: what you don’t know won’t hurt you. That’s a sad, pathetic lie and you know it. The truth always finds its way to the surface and I promise you it gets a lot uglier when told too late.

We lose people when we refuse to be honest with each other. It is not in anyone’s best interest to hide the truth, believe me. I have witnessed a number of different occasions where at least one person gets seriously hurt by lies. If you do not want to be a part of someone’s life, have the audacity to at least leave. Trapping people and making them wait for your departure that will come sooner or later is like putting them in prison for a crime they did not commit. We all know better, so why don’t we do better? I understand that the truth is not always pretty. Actually, it’s ugly most of the time. However, no truth ever hurt more than a cheap lie. Be the person you know you always could.

I know that trusting people is not always easy. It’s one of the hardest things we get to experience. I’ve had many instances where I thought I knew the person entirely, only to find out that I was not even close to the truth to begin with. I have never understood the phenomenon of faking whole friendships and relationships, but they do happen. They happen and they hurt like hell. Once you figure out the whole story, or at least most of it, you get the feeling that the person you once thought to be close is in fact a complete stranger all of a sudden. That should not discourage you from opening up and letting people in. Trust me when I say that not everyone is the same. Some people will hurt you, and then some will amaze you in the most profound ways that will take your breath away.

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